Back to what you know

2014-03-11 Back to what you know ©
Written by: Jehan Daal

Letting go, I wrote a post about it one month ago (Let it go ). Ever since, I notice more and more people who are struggling with it. And of course it comes in many forms. I can talk and analyze it for hours, it intrigues me.

Why is it that when you are feeling lonely or when you are having some tough weeks, that you think of your ex? You fantasize that he/she is lying next to you, comforting you. That you will wake up the next morning while feeling his/her warmth. Wondering why on earth you let him/her go. And you are only a couple of seconds away from phoning that person in order to get back together. Yup the same ex that is so not the one for you, and you broke up with for more than one good reason.

Why do people want certain things back? Was it really that great or is it temping to go back, because it feels save and familiar? How do you decide if your mind is only playing tricks with you or that you finally see things clearly? I mean sometimes you need some years apart, to grow, to do your thing and you turn out to be a good couple after all. Presume that you receive a call from a former employer that there is a vacancy for your old job. You loved that job and you really liked your colleagues. Should you go back? Or is it better to leave it all in the past?

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.”

Hermann Hesse, writer
1877 – 1962

The Spaniard is leaving the company, because a new adventure is waiting for him. He will be replaced by someone who worked there a couple of years ago. He is not the first former employee, who went back and let’s say also not the second. This all happened in a relatively short time frame.

Should you be dreaming of getting your old job back after a couple of years? Getting the old team back together, does not necessarily mean that it will be as successful as it was back then. The market changed, the company evolved and also very important, people change because of their life experience and that effects the group dynamic. The former intern who brought you coffee is now your equal colleague or maybe even better at managing a team than you are. Or that single male colleague who was a workaholic and always the last one who left the office, is now the one that works till 6 p.m. tops because he has a family that is waiting for him to come home.

I believe that sometimes it is better to let the successful past, stay in the past. To reminisce with a huge smile on your face. Keeping the memories alive by sharing them with others. Because after reaching the top, there is no way but down. Let it go! So take a breath, be thankful and move on into the future.


6 thoughts on “Back to what you know

  1. ” I think the only reason people hold onto memories so tight is, because memories are the only thing that don’t change when everybody else does”.

    “Loslaten is het begin van elk nieuw hoofdstuk”

  2. I think it’s usually a sign that the present day isn’t so hot so one seeks the past. If the phone suddenly rang and you were offered that great job you wanted or you met an amazing person when you popped out for a loaf of bread I think those yearnings would disappear like smoke! They would for me! But I don’t yearn for the past, I tend to appreciate the good times and leave them there with the hope of better times to replace them.

    • Thanks for taking the time to respond to this post. I agree with you. When someone is not happy with his current life, he/she thinks of the past. Idealizing how things were.
      Love your attitude! 🙂

  3. ” I think part of the reason why we hold on to something so tight is because we fear something so great won’t happen twice”

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